This is primarily a blog about my silly little hobbies, but I am, I suppose "The Responsible One", so I guess I need to be Responsible. There's a whole bunch of people being awful in the world right now, and a bunch of my readership are directly affected.
Unless everyone has rights, no-one really has rights. Rights are universal. They cannot, and should not be "granted" by a government or other authority. Anything that is granted can be taken away. If you think "some people" should have less rights, one day, authority may decide you are "some people".
Authoritarians around the world are trying to divide people, to set up "other people" to hate, be that the immigrant, another nation, the "lazy", or trans people. They are doing this to retain power. They are doing this to shore themselves up.
We play silly games with toy soldiers. It may feel like there's nothing you can do. In the big scheme of things, everyone can do things that make a small difference individually - writing to elected representatives, and attending protests. But there's also smaller things you can do that are still important.
There's this myth that the way to a good community is to let people be. But really, a healthy community has rules. If you let people intimidate, bully and make people unwelcome, then people will leave, and you will be left with nothing but toxic bullies. The bullies have to go.
Whether it's an online community or your local gaming club - make folk who might feel vulnerable or unsafe welcome. Make an effort, and, most importantly, if someone does or says something inappropriate - do something. Tell them that's not OK. Tell your club organiser. Remove them from groups you organise.
If someone you know says that something you said was hurtful or not OK, say sorry, and most importantly do everything you can to not do that again. Move on from it at the time - long rambling apologies or explanations make it worse. What's important is putting in the work to avoid doing it again. Making mistakes happens - but repeatedly being careless about things that matter to someone shows them that you don't care that you're hurting them. That you're not safe.
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Please be kind to one another.
Trans rights are human rights.